Gremlins, Energy Vampires, and the 3 Don'ts
In this issue, who is roaming free in your head and sucking all your energy and what you can do about it
Do you remember the movie Gremlins? Do you remember how adorable they were before they were doused with water? So cute and cuddly…
And then, wham! Add water and you are in the midst of a nightmare…
I mean, seriously?! What the hell? This was supposed to be a family movie, right?
Well, your mind is not that different. One minute the world is all cute and cuddly and then in a flash, you feel like the gremlins have taken over and are telling you that if you don’t do what others want or give them what they need, you are worthless.
Here’s the super fun thing about mind gremlins: They are often activated by Energy Vampires. Yes, the very people who cuddle up to you like Gizmo, attach themselves, drain your energy, and then move onto their next victim leaving you with the gremlins controlling your mind.
It’s time to put a stop to the mind gremlins and energy vampires once and for all.
How am I attracting energy vampires?
Great question! You attract energy vampires because you live out a default pattern of others first no matter what. This is a survival pattern or coping mechanism you fine-tuned because you found yourself in a toxic dynamic that demanded you be and do what others needed while denying yourself and your needs.
Most likely, you were the Good Girl in the family system. Your job was to:
not rock the boat
go along to get along
rescue others
fix drama
calm emotions
anticipate needs AND arrange to meet those needs
be the form of you they needed you to be
You literally became the energy that energy vampires crave because energy vampires want you to serve them. This is why the pattern continues in most of your relationships.
You are a kind, generous person
People sense this
Energy vampires woo you in and suck you dry
How do energy vampires activate my mind gremlins?
If you are consistently a victim of energy vampires, you are always exhausted. That exhaustion feels shameful to you because being all things to all people is who you are. It’s what you do. It’s how you serve others. When you can’t physically, mentally, and emotionally possibly do another thing for another person, those mind gremlins kick in.
You are so lazy
Think how they are going to feel
You are not worthy of…
You need to do more
You are never enough
What do your mind gremlins tell you? Let me know by leaving a comment.
That taunting inside your head is maddening and yet, most of us allow those gremlins to run around unchecked creating more and more chaos just like they did in the movie. If the energy vampire doesn’t destroy you, the mind gremlin will help out.
What can I do to become energy vampire and mind gremlin resistant?
First, let me say this will take practice and consistency. Your resiliency builds as you do your inner work and healing.
Practical tools are AMAZING. However, practical tools only go so far without the inner work. Practical tools can support you while you are doing your inner work so put these to use right away.
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Second, let’s get into the practical tools which I like to call The Three Don’ts.
Don’t engage. This doesn’t mean never interact with a potential energy vampire. This does mean don’t offer to help out a known energy vampire. If someone has drained you in the past, be very careful about choosing whether or not you will engage through offering to help.
Don’t defend. When you tell an energy vampire “No!” that is a complete sentence. You do not owe anyone an explanation for your no and you don’t need to defend your choice. No means no.
Don’t ignore your gut. This is one of the areas women notice a shift in when they join the Academy. They realize they have been cut off from the their intuition or their gut and within a couple of weeks, they start to reconnect with this amazing tool within each of us. Trusting your gut is so very important when knowing where to give your precious energy.
It’s time to UPLEVEL!!! This month’s Upleveled section includes a practical step you can start to use right away to help you implement The Three Don’ts as well as a mini-toolkit for managing and evicting the mind gremlins from your head. You don’t want to miss it! Uplevel your subscription now.
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