I Don't Know What To Do
I am still in reflection mode and here's what that means for your alignment, boundaries, and the most challenging family relationships in your life...
Boundaries are not just something I teach and coach. Boundaries are my daily practice and personal challenge as well.
So when I found writing a very detailed and high value content Substack each month was draining my energy, I stopped and re-evaluated.
Does this make sense right now in my life?
Why do I feel drained even before I start planning each month?
Is this the best use of my time in delivering high value support to my members and prospective members?
These questions align my values with how I show up in the world and they move me into clarity and decision-making.
I am gaining more clarity.
I have yet to make a decision about this Substack so let me ask you…
What do you appreciate about this publication? What would you like to see in this publication? Where have you made changes in your life because of what I have created for you? Leave me a comment and let me know your thoughts.
In the meantime while I am still reflecting, I will post shorter bits with tips and guidance and we will see where that goes.
Today, I am thinking ahead to the holiday season and all the craziness that can bring.
Stress from overloaded to-do lists
Dread at the thought of being around family members that drain your energy
Fear of disappointing this family to be with this family
Confusion over what you actually desire and what is being demanded of you
Pressure to go along with tradition because “it’s what we always do”
It’s A LOT and I have a couple of thoughts for you…
One, start planning now for the relational and energetic part of the holidays. This means set aside some time to make a list of what is EXPECTED and what you truly DESIRE for your holiday season. Include family gatherings, gift-giving, food, decorating, special events, who you spend time with, etc. List it all out and get very clear on what you DO and DON’T want for your holiday season. Don’t go into the whys and what ifs and how can I possibly do that. Just make the list…and check it twice 📋
Two, decide this year is going to be less stressful and more joyful and get the support you need to make that commitment to yourself and your family.
Get your spouse on board or ask a friend to be a holiday accountability buddy. I am serious! If you don’t share your commitment, I promise, it most likely won’t happen. Say it outloud. Say it in a safe and trusted space. Make it happen.
And, drop me a comment if you would like early access to my brand new Holiday Bootcamp: Be Prepared for the Zingers, Loving “Advice”, and Pressure to Show Up. We are taking a deep dive October 21-November 11th into how to say no and not feel guilty as you create your happiest holiday season yet.
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And, as always feel free to schedule a chat with me.