It's Time for Me to Get Real With You
In this issue, I share why I am that woman too, the woman trying to be all things to all people so that the boat doesn't rock
I haven’t been completely transparent with you and shared the reason why I support women in breaking the coping patterns they used to survive situations and relationships where they were expected to meet the demands of others while soothing their emotional state.
I support women in this unique journey because I am that woman too.
Notice I do not say “I was that woman too.” I AM that woman currently and I will always be that woman because it is a healing journey that goes smoothly for a while and then something happens that triggers old coping patterns and I am right in it again.
I bet you have a similar journey.
I went to therapy and found some answers as to why I kept getting myself into relationships that were so one-sided where I was always giving and never receiving, always soothing and never being soothed, always anticipating and meeting needs while allowing my needs to be ignored. But I never discovered how to STOP getting myself into those relationships.
The energy was familiar
The pattern was predictable
On some level, one-sided relationships with me giving my all felt very normal to me
But…
I longed for authentic connection
I longed for a meaningful career that filled me with joy
I longed for the day I would be excited to wake up and get my day started
I longed for the ability to say no without fear or regret
That’s when I knew I had to create the change in my life that I needed. I turned that healing journey into a guided path for you, my fellow woman who is done with the exhaustion of being all things to all people.
I have come to believe when you understand saying yes to others simply to keep them calm and happy is actually a coping skill you learned by being in a situation where one or more people were not capable of healthy relationships or communicating their needs or working through conflict, you begin the path to changing that coping pattern into choosing how you show up in the world. And how you show up in the world is aligned with who you are and what you value most. YOU Aligned
I help women who are done being the go-to gal, the reliable and loyal at all costs one, the one who fixes and cleans up the mess left by the drama of others.
I help women who are ready to bring conscious choice to what they do, who they give their time to, and how they show up to their lives.
I help women who want to create a ripple effect of change in the world by saying yes to their dreams while creating time and financial freedom so they can live lives of soul-based purpose and passion.
I help women do this because I am that woman too. I needed this work for myself. Now I live that work out daily in my own life and help you to do the same.
My solution is built around three foundational practices or tools.
1. 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 is essential to moving forward. Without healing, you will only be able to change surface behaviors and those will fall apart when the pressure is on. I support you in uncovering what created the coping patterns to begin with so that you can change those patterns from deep within through addressing guilt and shame while practicing forgiveness for yourself and others.
2. 𝙋𝙧𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡 𝙨𝙠𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙨 and tools are needed to sustain the healing and create the change you desire. I support you in creating and honoring boundaries that actually work and building emotional and relational intelligence through reflection tools and communication strategies.
3. 𝘾𝙪𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜 the life you desire, yes, I said curating. You are not creating the life you desire. You are consciously choosing who and what you want in your life in a way that aligns with you and your values. Your outer choices are a reflection of your inner work.
If you ask yourself often:
𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘦𝘹𝘩𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘥?
𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘥𝘰 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘮𝘦?
𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘶𝘱?
It’s time for you and I to connect.
I work with women who are exhausted from being all things to all people in TWO unique ways.
Academy membership is for women looking to find relief from exhaustion, anger, overwhelm as quickly as possible. These are the women who say to me, "I just can't do this anymore!" I hear you!
You are exhausted by the endless pattern of meeting the needs and demands of others.
You are feeling like your only purpose is to clean up after others or save the day
Your relationships feel shallow because you pour into them and get very little in return.
For 10 weeks, we get laser-focused on how you got here, how to stop the familiar pattern of saying yes at your own expense, and how to curate a life that is people-pleasing resilient moving forward.
The next opportunity for the Academy begins in January. Enrollment investment increases January 1, 2023, so now is the time to claim your spot. Details available by clicking here.
Consistency membership is for women who have spent time focused on their healing journey and desire deeper accountability for staying in that place of healing AND are looking for encouragement and community from other women on a similar journey AND are working towards building more time and financial freedom into their lives.
The theme for January in the Consistency membership is "Bless & Block". This is a fresh take on resolutions inspired by an Instagram post from Glennon Doyle. We will be exploring the power of letting go of what and who no longer serves you so that you can say yes to new connections, opportunities, and relationships in 2023.
Consistency membership is available in two forms to meet various needs and budgets. Join now as investment increases January 1, 2023 and is currently discounted to 50% off! Click to schedule a quick chat with me to explore which consistency membership is a perfect fit for you.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I know if the YOU Aligned memberships are for me?
The women who join the YOU Aligned have a history of one or more of the following:
a demanding, unhappy parent
a narcissistic relationship with either a parent or partner
beliefs that center around the more I do the more worthy I am
The women who join the YOU Aligned memberships struggle with the following:
saying no without fear
developing mutual relationships where both people invest equally
taking on the energy and emotions of others as their responsibility
saying yes to their own needs and desires without guilt
What can I do right now to begin to recognize and shift out of the people-pleasing, be all things to all people, don’t rock the boat patterns in my life?
The most important thing you can do is acknowledge that if you have read this far and you are nodding your head yes, you would benefit from the YOU Aligned memberships. I want you to feel good about your life, your relationships, your generosity with your time and energy…most importantly, I want you to feel good about you. You are exhausted and frustrated and angry because you have a huge heart that believes loving on the world is important and essential.
The upleveled area has 3 practical steps you can take this week to begin to shift out of the being all things to all people dynamic. Click that uplevel button to access these powerful and life-changing steps now.
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